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Message: [QUOTE="fletchdad, post: 1603407, member: 65205"] OK, just my 2 cents. 1.*** So? 26? Man, live it up. If you happen to find a woman you want to give up point #3 for, fine. Thinking you can force it will not help. It will come when it comes, and you can speed date all you want, but you will not be more or less ready just cause you think you should be. I found that "special person" 4 times already, and she became not so special after all. Except for the one I met when I was 36. I am 52 and we are still making it together, and, believe me, there is effort involved. The magical made-in-heaven- relationship ONLY happens in movies, sit coms and daily soaps, believe me. The real worl relationships are a day to day effort to keep. It doesent mean its not worth the effort, just saying that there MUST be effort if it is to last. 2.*** **** that. Stereotyped from who? Why does that matter to you? And maybe you are NOT yet "husband material". Its YOUR decision, and - seriously - **** what other people think. (Thats the point of this whole thread anyway isnt it?) 3*** If you do and want to, and you can believe that Iknow what living on the wild side means, and I did it a long time and LOVED it and had I not lived like this as long as I wanted to and tried to become "domesticated" before I WAS READY TO, it would never have worked. I was in relationships when I really wanted to live wild (I am a musician, and the stereotype musician who drinks, does drugs and gets the girls IS true lol) and me not wanting to be in relationships but trying to anyway was just an ongoing drug-alcohol-infested orgy that it was going to be anyway with the unpleasent side effect of me being basically not happy and my girl friend wanting to kill me. Why do that to your self and someone else? I finally just accepted how I was living and anyone willing to accept it could go along for the ride if they wanted to, but in the end I was totally honest about who I was and how I lived and my life was much simpler and more enjoyable, albeit maybe not so wholesome and healthy:D. 4. *** See my original answer. If you do, you do. Not saying from the get go means unnecessary stress later, if she is looking for a non smoker. Imagine she wants to date a black man. Judging from your avatar, you are white. You think you can hide that for long? I am a non smoker and, believe me, she will know that you smoke, and quickly. If you say you dont, your first building block is based on a lie, how is that supposed to wok out? IMO your attitude should be "I smoke. You dont like that? Then lets not waste each others time". [/QUOTE]

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