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Message: [QUOTE="nameless1537, post: 5338795, member: 403213"] OP, I just want you to know that I am trying to offer constructive and encouraging feedback, especially in light of what you wrote in the OP about the impact of negative comments on your psychology. My response was meant to be helpful, and I apologize for putting you on the defensive. That said, I want to address what you wrote in response to my post: So there is a bit of a hybrid of what we are both saying here. You actually did state that it is your conviction on the right way to play poker -- so it's an opinion about [U]the right way to play poker.[/U] This... is the issue though. Whenever you come in with the attitude of "I think this is the right way to play poker", the ensuing moves can be easily mapped to a poker equivalent. In poker, much of it is about trying to convince others that you have (or will have) the best hand and each re-raise is basically issuing a challenge saying "no... I think I will have the best hand after all of the cards are down." In the forum posts, if you post with a conviction that you have "the right way to play poker", then you have to expect some pushback... an equivalent of a poker re-raise. And as in poker, you cannot allow those challenges affect you psychologically -- and if it does, you need to take a break to regain your psychology (which is what you are doing in these forums). The truth is... you can avoid all of that by softening the tone of your posts. To shift from "the right way" (implication is: only 1 right way to play) to "a profitable approach" (implication is: there are many ways to be profitable) moves the needle a bit. The former implies more arrogance and the latter implies more humility. On my part, I've actually read each of your recent threads. Based on my observation, I've only seen you post to start a thread about a poker topic or you've responded to a comment on your thread. I have not yet seen you post a response to a thread that someone else has started -- but just because I haven't seen it, it doesn't mean it does not exist. That said, my guess is that over 90% of your posts are in the threads you've started. And the tone of the posts are somewhat like this: [URL]https://www.cardschat.com/forum/learning-poker-57/how-read-your-opponents-438431/[/URL] [URL]https://www.cardschat.com/forum/learning-poker-57/good-strategy-limping-not-438592/[/URL] [URL]https://www.cardschat.com/forum/tournament-poker-59/things-you-never-have-do-in-439236/[/URL] If you look at each of these OP, you'll note that the tone that comes across is "I'm a poker expert, and I will tell you how to play correctly" even if you never stated it or meant it. There are ways to change the wording of the posts to soften that image, while still getting the points across... but I'm not going to get into it here -- that is a subject for a much larger matter. Just note the psychological impact of that kind of tone on your readers. It's the classic "it's not what you said, but how you said it" stuff. Often times (and unfortunately), the figurative baby gets thrown out with the bathwater if the tone is experienced as somewhat offensive by the readers. I'll end my post with this: I really appreciate the intent with which you've written your posts -- the desire to contribute to this community and help others by sharing the knowledge that you have gained from playing poker. I will simply say that there is more than one way to be helpful to a community (and I've written about some of them in my earlier post). All the best to you. Cheers. [/QUOTE]

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