zingbust said:
1st place...anything less is not a victory. Satisfaction may come from playing well, getting to the money, making new friends, feeling lucky that you have time and money to play poker, or many other reasons, but those things aren't victories.
DITTO - Victory is cut and dry. It is winning. But losing does not mean that other things cannot be taken from the experience/effort/time spent. I have walked away out of the money but feeling very good and satisfied with how I played. I have also walked away ITM pretty disjointed and dissatisfied with how I played.
Don't want to take away from a great post, but I do recommend you try another tact than "moral victories" - highly competitive people will not buy into that bullshit loser talk (because that's what it is to us). We will buy into the fact that there are other elements that are separate from winning that make us better and more prepared for the next competition.
Achieving goals is achieving goals (having fun, making final table, finishing ITM), but victory in competition is one thing and one thing only: Last Man Standing.
A poker buddy and I used to always have 10% of each other in tournaments we played. Until the time I recently finished 5th (well ITM) and since I wasn't yelling "Yippee" (I wasn't even grumbling, I was just tired and disappointed), I was chastised by him for being unappreciative and unthankful . Fair enough, but it exposed the extreme difference between us - I was playing to win and he was playing to cash (his idea of victory). It was clear our arrangement was not fair to either one of us so I absolved the agreement and wish him well and have partnered with someone else who has more of a victory or nothing mentality.
ON BEHALF OF US UBER-COMPETITIVE TYPES:
We don't have a problem with those who are playing for fun, or to be social, or just to have a hobby. We don't lecture you or try to convince you to change your game, motives or objectives. Please don't feel like you are responsible for ours.







So the ability to take something from each tournament (hand, even) is critical to getting better as a player, let's just not confuse that with winning.