know theres a lot of HEM Manager pros on here...

Just got the HEM manager and can't figure out how to get the stats to be connected to the right seat, or how to keep my stats off the table. Also anybody know of a good HUD of 25-50nl.

HEM has a forum. http://forums.holdemmanager.com
Go ask them

You want to make sure your preferred seating is set up in both pokerstars (or full tilt or wherever) along with it being set up right in HEM.

Within HEM:

Click on "HUD Options"
then
"Seating Preferences"

Make sure you assign the correct "Preferred Seat" that corresponds to the site and table type.

For example, in a full ring game (9-max) on stars you sit yourself in the middle from within the Preferred Seating option at the table. Counting from the dealer and moving clockwise, that would be seat #5. Within HEM assign "5" to the 9-max option at the site.