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Message: [QUOTE="Jacki Burkhart, post: 3135433, member: 105969"] In response to nutcracker69, regarding the femininity I'm not talking about women who are already poker players, and how feminine or not feminine they choose to dress/behave. I'm talking about appealing to the masses of non-poker playing women; poker can seem "unfeminine" and therefore unattractive to women (as a potential hobby) if they care about that sort of thing. [B]e·mo·tion·al in·tel·li·gence noun the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. "emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success" [/B] With regards to tilt; I think you actually bring up a very good point. Of course all humans are capable of tilting or "being rattled" if you push their buttons just right. But it does seem, in my extremely biased opinion, the women poker players tend to handle needling/berating/bad beats etc much better at the poker table than the male population on average. In all my years of playing I've only seen 1 female player have an emotional outburst at the table. But I've seen countless men go on tilt, lose their cool, attack, revenge punt their stacks, berate and intimidate other players. I'm not suggesting that it's all men, but it does seem to be more prevalent that male players have a more difficult time controlling their emotions in poker. it's funny because I hear people (males) frequently say that women "are too emotional" to be as good of players as men...it's a surprisingly common assumption. I have no clue where that comes from. Do men forget that anger, rage, jealousy, frustration, humiliation are all emotions? I think men associate "emotion" to mean "crying" and they are conjuring up the wrong memories. I do think it is more common in arguments in regular life for women to be brought to tears and for men to rage and yell and boom. But at the poker table I've never seen a woman cry; I have seen a man cry at the poker table though (WSOP main event bust out hand of Matt Afleck). So, I do not think women are more or less emotional than men as a whole, but I do think women have higher emotional intelligence (on average) than men. And I don't believe this is entirely biological either. From an early age women are encouraged or at least allowed to express and process their emotions, and to talk about them and learn from the process....which means as they age they have greater and greater ability to quickly identify and process their emotions in real time so as to have a minimum impact on their life. Men, by contrast are encouraged to repress and hide their emotions from an early age. Expressing or talking about their feelings is often viewed as a sign of "weakness". Just this morning my 7 year old son was crying out of frustration about something and my husband ridiculed and shamed him for "acting like a girl". I don't condone this type of parenting, but we're not perfect parents and we're learning as we go. I can only assume that most boys as they grown into men experience a similar spoken or unspoken pressure to "bottle it all up" and "act like a man" which works fine until it doesn't. A lot of these men have a complete or partial inability to process difficult emotions in stressful situations. And I think primarily this emotional intelligence is learned, but possibly a portion of it might be biological. Throughout history women have been the ones raising the family and keeping the household together in relative peace while men were the ones "protecting" and "hunting" and generally dealing with conflict. Women seem to be more capable of taking an injustice in stride and making the best out of a bad situation. [/QUOTE]

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