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[QUOTE="Evan Jarvis, post: 5728699, member: 374519"]
I agree that balance is the key here

When you are wanting to play poker, you should be just be playing poker (and it should be on your own time)

When you are with your GF and/or her family you should be fully present with them 100%. Nobody wants to share time with someone who isn't really present and enjoying their company.

Poker should be a part of your life that you get to enjoy, like a hobby, but it shouldn't be an addiction that you can't put away.

When you pull out poker in a social situation you are basically telling the other people (on a nonverbal level) that they are 'boring' or not worth your time, and this is what would likely lead to feelings of resentment anger etc.

How would you feel if everytime you wanted to hang with your GF she spent the entire time swiping thru her instagram feed? What do you think your family would think of her if she did that during all your family dinners.

Be present with the main activity you are doing, when you are with the group be with the group, when you are on your own do as you please. (also note, if you make an effort to genuinely listen and understand their interests without judgement, they may just begin to do the same for you!)

Hope this advice helps from someone who has lost relationships because of addictions (me), and who has learned the joys of sharing moments with good people. You'll be much happier in the long run if you can find this balance.

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Best of luck to you my friend.
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