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Message: [QUOTE="Debi, post: 3403765, member: 13937"] I hate to say this - but you have a huge problem on your hands. If he has not been financially responsible up to this point you could be in for a lifetime of that. Like many poker players he "thinks" he is a winning player because that is the only way he can justify continuing to play. He has no bankroll management skills whatsoever - seems to think all of the money you guys have is available for him to use. All of the other good things in your relationship will get you by for now - but if your marriage survives you will not be financially prepared for your later years in life. It is hard to make young people (and I assume you guys are young) to think outside of the present tense when it comes to finances. He should be allowed to play poker because he obviously loves it. However - the 2 of you should establish and agree on a monthly bankroll and he should stick to that 100%. It should leave you enough money to pay all of your bills, your living expenses and to put money away into savings - which is not touched for poker. My husband and I have separate bank accounts - even though all of them are joint with both of our names on it. He makes more money than I do so pays more bills than I do. The way we decide who pays what - we fix it so that we have the exact same amount of discretionary income leftover each month - that is after we each pay extra on the mortgage and maintain our savings account. What we do with our discretionary income is totally up to us - I spend some of mine on poker and he spends some of his on golf. We have had exactly 1 argument about money in almost 16 years. (and that was about a HUGE sum of money) I know of no other couple who does what we do - and all of them have arguments about money on a regular basis. [/QUOTE]

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