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[QUOTE="Odysseus101, post: 3404081, member: 211309"]
Just an addendum, Sandra.  I wanted to mention this above, but what I wrote was already too long.  But this is worth say.

Your jealousy isn't something you should feel guilty about.  If my spouse had a one night stand with someone, I'd be upset.  But maybe they were drunk and lonely or something, and if there was no prior relationship with that other person or since, what sort of betrayal is that?  Yes, it's a terrible mistake but after getting an STD check I'd likely forgive my spouse with a warning.   A true betrayal is putting someone else above your spouse; having an intimate (not even sexual necessarily) relationship with someone outside of the marriage to the exclusion of a spouse.  That's a betrayal.

So it's okay to feel jealous when your husband is chatting to other women online, even if there's nothing going on sexually.  Just don't overreact.

And what's going on here is also a betrayal.  Your husband has a mistress and her name is poker:  she takes your husband's attention, passion, goals, time and money away from the family and she has put you in second place when you should be first.  That's a betrayal.  So you're not wrong to feel how you do.  Maybe if you explain it to him in this way he'll get the message.
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