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Message: [QUOTE="Poker Orifice, post: 3404139, member: 33113"] It can get far beyond this point.... to complete ruin, jail, institutions & DEATH (by suicide or other). This is not unusual at all. People play poker for different reasons.... for some its a social gathering/get-together, for others its a mental game of in-depth strategy, for others it's some weekly or monthly entertainment, for others it's a career & for some others it is an uncontrollable addiction to gambling!! If you have the propensity for addiction, there's a good change it will get you ('it' being 'poker'... but it could actually be the 'learning of the game' they're wired to... or "the MONEY". Lots of great comments/suggestions in this thread already. Something I'd like to add (based a bit off of what dakota was saying.. when she mentioned >>> "If he has not been financially responsible up to this point you could be in for a lifetime of that. " you could also be in for a long haul before your partner is willing to accept that they even have a problem (if that ever happens). Most won't curb their actions... instead they'll take it to the bitter end and most often this is exactly what it will take before they're ready to do what it takes to change. I don't know what would make this happen (it could be the thought of you leaving them.... or just the idea of this being a possiblity.... I have no clue). I also know that you can't change them.... you can only change yourself and how you let it affect you & how you choose to deal with it... how you react to it, how you let it control you (or not). It is very easy to get addicted to the addict, thinking that 'you'll be okay if they just did this (... or 'that')... 'if only', etc. etc. I would think you need to find some ways in which you can make it work for yourself & draw yourself a bottom line (ie. separate money setup similar to what dakota was suggesting (I thought that was a great idea just for any (or most) relationships). I think though if your partner is actually addicted to gambling (which it seems like from what you've mentioned so far), this probably won't work for long (... other things will happend... money will go missing... unexpected bills will pop up, etc. etc.). Good luck. [/QUOTE]

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