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[QUOTE="Sandra87, post: 3405689, member: 227021"]
Thank you all for your opinions/insight. I don't want to leave him, present an ultimatum, or "test" him - I think those last two would be detrimental to the trust between us. We try to just have conversations, but finances are always difficult because he gets so defensive.
I was thinking about the separate accounts idea, and I think what I want to propose is keeping our direct deposits going into our main checking, then paying the bills coming due, and dividing up the rest between us (minus some joint discretionary for groceries/going out/gas, because it looks like it'll be really complicated if we don't). So we can keep a joint savings for big expenses/emergency, he can use all of his half for poker if he wants, and I can save up whatever of mine to my heart's content and not even care what he's spending his on because I won't even monitor it and it won't affect what I want/need. I manage our bills, so this seems to make the most sense to me.

Thoughts?
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