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Message: [QUOTE="IntenseHeat, post: 2261651, member: 92488"] I, myself, have never been able to solve this particular riddle. I have a female friend who has a strong understanding of both the pshycological and mathematical aspects of the game. She is a skilled player, knowing when to keep it simple, when to switch gears, and when and how to apply pressure. She loves talking the game with other knowledgeable players almost as much as playing it. In spite of all of this, she still has a tendency to become emotional after suffering bad beats. When I say emotional, I mean she gets pissed! I've tried pretty much everything to help her deal with it. I've tried sympathy and empathy. I've tried using the logic that you want people making bad calls and getting their chips in light against you, because you will win the majority of the time. I've done the hand analysis that leads to the conclusion that the other player made a horrible play and got lucky. I've tried to assure her that playing a hand as well she can is best that she can do. I've even tried to be real with her and tell her that her relentlessly aggressive style is sometimes going to prompt players to try to take a stand and play back at her when they think she might just be running a table over. Yeah, I agree, that wasn't the best approach. I've tried the say nothing, and just be the sympathetic ear approach. Of course you know how that one goes. I'm eventually going to be told to "say something". Here's the kicker. She's a very smart person. So it's not like I'm telling her things that she doesn't already know. Sometimes you just can't help feeling the way you feel, even when you know that it's not going to solve anything. She's actually in awe of my ability to take bad beats in stride. Unfortunately, it's not something that I can teach someone else. I can explain my reasoning for not letting it get to me, but I can't make it sink in. Only time can do that. And that time is different for everyone. Sometimes the best I can do is to say that I understand, but am not going to tolerate that shitty mood. That may seem harsh, but it's like starting an egg timer. Before too long, she will be apologizing for her mood. And then we can move on to agreeing that yes it was a horrible hand to call a raise with, yes he is a lucky bastard and the worst player ever, and probably won't last out the blind level. [/QUOTE]

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