The decisions-over-results part is the piece most players take years to actually believe, so you are ahead of the curve. The books back it hard: short-run results are mostly variance, so decision quality at the moment you acted is the only thing worth grading yourself on.
One way to make "learning from my mistakes" concrete instead of a mood: pick one focus before each session, just one, like folding the junk hands you already know you should not open. During play, mark any hand that confused you and keep moving, no table analysis. Afterward, replay the marked hands to the decision point, commit out loud to what you would do, then check what you actually did. One focus per week sticks where six at once do not, and the fewer-hands, more-patience goals you listed will fall out of that loop on their own.