What if your wife hates poker ,what will you do ?

[Raposo27]

a friend of mine wife's hate poker and don't let him play ,he plays without telling her, its like cheating with another girl . do you think its the right decision ?
what will you do if you were him ?

I'm looking for the answer too.

 

[mclaughlinph]

If you have a wife already and you are just taking up poker then make sure you give her some quality time and explain poker is the equivalent to you of whatever it is she likes to do that you dont. That it is your "me time". If you are a hard core poker player and you always have been and your wife knew that going in to your marriage then that is something she will have to live with. Or find a new wife because poker is a part of who you are and more importantly what you love doing and if she doesnt respect that then she might not respect you. If on the other hand you are spending money that you need for family things and bills and mortgages that are priority number one on poker then maybe reconsider your poker playing or get help.

 

[linf]

What would I do? Well, I would miss her very much, lmao.

thank you friend! you made my day!))))

 

[danydidi]

Yeah, my wife hates poker, but we respect each other's interests and idiosyncrasies. I try to live a balanced life, making sure to take care of the honey-do list in a timely fashion, spending quality time with her, watching TV shows with her that she likes but I don't really care for, etc. I limit my poker time to four to six hours and day, and sometimes play after she goes to bed if I'm not tired.

We're retired which helps, but I'm also president of a radio control flying club which I must also give priority time to. That's how I keep my life balanced and don't fall into the poker abyss.

Lately, she's gotten into the habit of asking me how my poker day went. I like that. It shows she cares about the things I'm interested in especially when I know she's not.

Just remember--happy wife, tolerable life.

good to hear that , but if i may ask how old are you ?and since when your playing poker ?

 

[danydidi]

I'm looking for the answer too.

the best answer i got to this is : you must specify an affordable amount of money for poker ( if you loose ) and then you must tell her its like when she spend money on a hobby for her .so you will be equal

 

[Chaskyweed05]

Hey friend, everyone decides between love and money haha

 

[Hsac]

good to hear that , but if i may ask how old are you ?and since when your playing poker ?

Hi danydidi, I'm 63 and have been playing poker since the early eighties. The days before internet and online poker. Even played limit Hold'em professionally for awhile. Those were the days before Hold'em really took off, and no-limit became popular.

 

[abpoker]

I don't think it's as bad as cheating with another girl, but it is not the right decision to play without telling her. He needs to talk to her, and they need to address why she doesn't want him to play. Is she justified in that? Does he have an actual problem with poker, as in, is he addicted? Or is it unreasonable? Either way, whatever the solution, he should not be playing without telling her.

 

[Maggio_A]

The problem is, he never wins [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]

then I get that wife

 

[emisalvo]

At the moment I don't have a wife, so I don't have that problem! If you did and poker bothered you, you could play a little less but not stop playing! It would have to be consensual, but I wouldn't stop playing ... she would have to understand

 

[gambit1983]

Open an account for her on some site with some cash in it and let her play at micro stakes. Maybe she will like the game

 

[pokersextreme]

I don't think that'll be an issue once it doesn't affect your relationship or finances.

 

[kkuk]

hi.I'll get rid of my wife if she interferes with my poker game.)))

 

[igroksash]

Make sure that she does not know about poker, then save both your and her nerves.

 

[Pepitcho23]

All depends of the player! If you r a bad player and you loose your money constantly, she as the right to tell you to stop, lol.
If its only for hobby , i think you can go play cause if she really love you you gonna play.
You have to know how to speack with her.
Tell her if you win you go in holliday or at the restaurant, spa.... all the GIRLS THINGS...
The easier things to say if you want to play without problems .
Good luck:five:

 

[Szyilard]

Hi Mr!

I have this situation too. I will explain to her that this will make her new clothes and shoes . But it also takes one to win.

 

[messats]

simple improvements wifey first

poker life or wifey life

 

[Jim Rivas]

a friend of mine wife's hate poker and don't let him play ,he plays without telling her, its like cheating with another girl . do you think its the right decision ?
what will you do if you were him ?

If she hates poker it is because they have not taught her the benefits of the game, give her a gift from time to time and ask her out and tell her that you do it because you win at poker and the hatred will reach that point.:five:

 

[GeckoAA]

Just because your in a relationship, does not mean a person should have to give up hobbies such as poker. A partner has no right to forbid such a thing. It’s good to have some things to do together but each person needs to be allowed to do individual things too.

A person should not have to lie or hide something they enjoy doing. I would just tell the truth. There must be something she does on her own that might be comparable and using it to try to get her to understand his point of view.

When we try to stop our loved ones from doing something that we our selves don’t like , we will just end up driving them away from us or changing the trust level in the relationship for the worse. It’s not healthy.

Example - I had an aunt that had 3 boys and she basically forbid them from ever getting or riding a motor bike. Well when one of the boys turn 19 he secretly bought a motor bike and went on a 1 month riding holiday and obviously did not tell her.
She found out years later, through someone else that he had a motor bike and was quite offended that he was so dishonest, but what was he suppose to do? Her behaviour put him between a rock and hard place.

One more thing, sometimes when we forbid something from someone else, it ends up making it even more desirable to that person.

 

[EmiTou]

I think that for everything you have to find a consensus, a moment, a situation, maybe not everyone can be 16 hours a day, it is a matter of finding a way and that both develop the activity they want.

 

[gallora]

If your wife gets in the way of playing poker, you need to leave your wife.

 

[Darkray]

I will look for a new wife.

 

[Tylerstevenson1919]

If my wife hates poker

If my wife hates poker then it’s time for a new wife

 

[BatOneHat]

Play when she is not around is ok

Playing when the wife is not around is ok. You can tell her what your doing, but out of respect you play when she is not around. See how much I love you? It’s not like cheating.

 

[GeckoAA]

Its never fair when a person has to hide what they like or who they are. Thats not very healthy in a relationship.


If I were him I would ask her to sit down and have a respectful conversation. Talk about why he likes poker so much. Ask her why she hates it so much. etc etc

If he plays online, ask if she would like to watch a bit, or maybe if she shows enough interest, let her try it out.

Is there anything that she does that he does not like or does not support? Perhaps they could talk about this too. Maybe they could start supporting each other's passions and hobbies instead of hiding or controlling each other.

I think this would strengthen a relationship more so than what currently occurring.

Even if he never wins, as long as he is contributing fairly to living expenses. It would be different situation if she was the only one working and paying bills.

Everyone needs to be able to have hobbies etc even if it costs; as not every hobby people choose to do makes money. Sometimes maybe you go to dance classes or Zumba for example; this costs money but you get a payment of health, not more money.