What’s the Biggest Elephant in the Room for Gambling Couples?

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In relationships where one partner gambles, there’s often a big unspoken issue lurking. Is it about finances, honesty, or the future? What do you think couples dodge the most?

For me, my “casino” is just online, except for that two visits I had in the past, and more of a hobby — I don’t touch my salary or passive income, so no problem there. How about you guys, what’s your story? 🎲
 
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There is always the fear that the person gambling is going to gamble away all of their money and get into a financial crisis, pulling their partner in there with them either directly or indirectly.
 
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CNXRegie said:
How about you guys, what’s your story? 🎲
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I had many partners throughout my life, including 2 wives.

Except one (2nd wife), I noticed that they all hated my guitar, my books and the time I spend playing poker, sometimes openly and sometimes "undercover" 😉.

Though I never threatened our financial stability, the insinuations and the overstatements were there. So, if I say that we've dodged anything, I'd be lying.
 
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CNXRegie said:
In relationships where one partner gambles, there’s often a big unspoken issue lurking. Is it about finances, honesty, or the future?
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The question kind of supposes that gambling is a bad thing. In our discussions here at Cardschat about gambling I've noticed that many posts are not particularly supportive of gambling. I wonder if we're not hearing from many of the true gamblers or if there just aren't that many. It also raises the question of why a non-gambler would marry/partner with a gambler in the first place if gambling is inherently a bad thing, or at least something that we kind of agree may get in the way of a union between two people? I guess love is blind.

"Finances, honesty, or the future?" - they all go hand in hand, so my vote is for all three.
 
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I only date strippers. They look up to gamblers (or maybe it's the money).🤔 😒
 
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najisami said:
I had many partners throughout my life, including 2 wives.

Except one (2nd wife), I noticed that they all hated my guitar, my books and the time I spend playing poker, sometimes openly and sometimes "undercover" 😉.

Though I never threatened our financial stability, the insinuations and the overstatements were there. So, if I say that we've dodged anything, I'd be lying.
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That's quite a revelation, Sami. 😉

Just as long as family finances is not in trouble, everything should be good. 🫰
 
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There is always the fear that the person gambling is going to gamble away all of their money and get into a financial crisis, pulling their partner in there with them either directly or indirectly.
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I agree with you 💯. At the end of the day, money really plays the biggest role in whether a family’s future feels secure or ends up on the edge. 💸👨‍👩‍👧‍👦
 
CNXRegie said:
Just as long as family finances is not in trouble, everything should be good.
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Not everyone would agree on that unfortunately. Especially women I would say. The ones who don't play poker I should add 😉🤣.
 
I think money is probably the biggest one. Even if someone keeps gambling money separate, a partner can still worry about where the habit might lead later.
 
pentazepam said:
I only date strippers. They look up to gamblers (or maybe it's the money).🤔 😒
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Where have you been by the way??? Only with the strippers or what? Haven't read anything of you for a long long time already.
 
najisami said:
I had many partners throughout my life, including 2 wives.

Except one (2nd wife), I noticed that they all hated my guitar, my books and the time I spend playing poker, sometimes openly and sometimes "undercover" 😉.

Though I never threatened our financial stability, the insinuations and the overstatements were there. So, if I say that we've dodged anything, I'd be lying.
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Maybe the guitar, books and poker weren’t really the problem 😂
 
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I’ve been playing for over 20 years. I’ve quite often had conflicts with my female friends over gambling, though these conflicts arose solely because I was spending too much time on poker and betting.
 
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