Marriage vs. Poker

In young years is for many player poker more important. The older you are, the more important the family becomes. Actually more important is to have a family at all. Especially children, if you want some. I do.

F that. gambling comes first.

No matter what your addiction might be, Drink, Drug's, or Gambling on anything, If it was causing a problem between your Spouse and yourself then you need to ask yourself what is more important, Your relationship, or your addiction.
With my personal addiction it was gambling on the Horses, and yes some week's I was borrowing money from friend's to try and win my losses back, but that was before I got involved with my wife, and she understood I had a passion for gambling.
She never asked me to quit, it was my decision, because I knew it could have caused problem's in the future, and didn't want to risk our relationship, I still have a flutter now and again but leave it for a day out when it is part of the day's event. It does not mean I cannot have my fun, just that I have moderated my gambling and are in full control of it.
Thankfully On-line Poker fills that gap in between and I am still in full control, I have never made a deposit on any site, and still play for money, because I am a patient man who can wait for good things to happen, like winning small amounts in Free-rolls and building from them. It is easy when you are patient and work hard at your game.
Just ask yourself one simple question, "If you cannot win a Free-roll, What makes you think you can win a $1,000 Dollar buy-in?"
Moderation is the key! I have tried all manner of thing's, Drinks, Drugs, and Gambling but to stay in control, you have to moderate everything in Life.
There is an old saying "Too much of a good thing is bad for you" I follow that rule in everything I do. Or as I like to say--

When the fun Stops, STOP!

Let's assume that my wife is very important to me and I love her more than anything, then I would definitely stop playing poker. But maybe a compromise can be found. Why does she want you to quit poker? Have you lost a lot of money playing poker? Then play in smaller limits. Anyway, you should only play in limits where you don't mind losing. Otherwise you will play too fearfully and you will miss opportunities. I consider the money that I deposit in my poker account as play money. I am not dependent on the money and I would not mind if I lost it. This is the only way to access your A-game.
Or is it because you play too much? Then just play less and take time for your wife. She certainly has her own interests and hobbies that she pursues. If she does then you can also pursue your interests and play poker.

My wife always had a negative attitude towards gambling, but she flatly refuses to take poker seriously, does not believe in me, says people win, that there are only a few of them, that this is all nonsense, that I will never win anything.

It all depends on what role poker plays in life. If poker is the main way of making money, then obviously you need to agree on the time of the poker session with your other half. If you make good enough poker money, then I think there should be no problems in marriage. Well, if you play poker for fun, then it's time to tie and take time for your family.

FastEddie777 said:

If you were a poker addict and it was affecting your marriage, would you quit playing poker if it meant not losing your wife?

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I'd 100% quit!

Yes, the wife is probably more important than poker. Although I divorced a long time ago, I still believe that family should always come first.

I am not married, but I am convinced that the wife should be a priority. Especially when the family is young, there are things more interesting than the game.

Wife + Poker = Perfect

Family First

I'm not married but I think it depends if you consider poker as a hobby or a profession.

Hello, Everyone! I long time ago married already: have family, the adult children... Therefore I not have the such problem,
as Marriage vs. Poker. Everybody doing their own cases :deal:, and we bring together on the different holidays...:icon_sant:angel:
That's all OK! Life continues!..

If I was married I would choose a game over my wife, however I would try to compromise to play sometimes like I do now even though I'm single.

Poker is my life

If I found myself addicted to Poker I would quit anyway. Because no addiction is good. Poker should bring you joy and not depression.

You need a compromise!

Hello everyone, colleagues!
A very hot topic at all times. Family or poker ??? What to choose ???
Old D.Branson could answer this question. He has a large family and is a multiple winner of various tournaments. Great champion!
I think you need to be a good psychologist and be able to find a compromise in any situation 😊.

30 years of poker and raising family ,I will suggest to sacrifice poker for the well being of your family, you cannot pretend giving them a quality life when you are consumed full time or part time by poker

Well I guess I can't really answer as I do not have the mentality of a poker addict.

However, if I had to make that choice, I would pick my family. Poker is a hobby and fun escape from the daily grind of life. However, when I look back at the fondest memories, none of them have anything to do with poker. They are all experiences with one or more of my family members.

Doesn't matter to me how many hands or big pots I may miss out on, I can easily say I would rather be all in on my family and eternally fold my poker hand.

Poker is like marriage

Poker is like marriage, it can hurt. But it can also bring joy and happiness, but if I had a choice between poker and marriage then I would just carry on if that's what she knew about you playing poker before she married you, but if she didn't know then that's a tricky predicament.

We will see how the whole marriage and poker thing works out took the plunge this morning and went and bought the ring! Here we go!

FastEddie777 said:

If you were a poker addict and it was affecting your marriage, would you quit playing poker if it meant not losing your wife?

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it's time to divorce, man!

In my case I feel privileged because I learned poker thanks to my wife's encouragement.

She loves to play together.