It’s strange for me that you are asking for advice in your personal life at the poker forum. Do you really do as strangers tell you?dedkndy said:
It all depends on whether you really love each other. If your girl really loves you and she does not like that you play, then she should tolerate it. My wife is also not satisfied that I play at night, and not with her in bed. We even had funny scandals. She tried turning off my Internet so I could go to bed with her. Also threatened with divorce, but apparently over time ill and forgotten, now we live and prosper and with a smile remember our stupid and funny scandals.dedkndy said:
Hi There
You know what´s the funniest thing?
Is that this situation happen all over the planet
Maybe when the aliens come and we go to a different planet there will be no
women to bother us and maybe some alien female more understanding
hahahahaha
Rgds
You know what´s the funniest thing?
Is that this situation happen all over the planet
Maybe when the aliens come and we go to a different planet there will be no
women to bother us and maybe some alien female more understanding
hahahahaha
Rgds
elJenio8 said:
Hello there elJenio how you doing? Man, I would like to give you some piece of advice that it goes for your personal life as well: when you state that "Don't know why women are like that" you are proposing, indirectly, that you maybe are a little bit sexist and this is not good.
I don't believe "women" are like this or that, everyone has its personality, but, we know that our modern western society was built up upon sexism, of a society dominated and ruled by men. We are not in the 19th or 20th century anymore and we try to understand women as subjects of society not objects as you described.
Sorry, I know this is isn't about poker but somehow it comes to the point. Let's reason together and try to respect and understand the female world before blaming women based on generic thoughts of ancient decades.
Regards;
Carlos 'Aballinamion' Barbosa
I think that asking for advice on a social network is wrong, at least in my opinion. The best thing you could do is to seek help from a professional, someone who is responsible for arranging marriages to help you both to do what you can to rescue your relationship. In my case, my wife is worth more than any poker game and any amount of money, and I wouldn't let her go for anything in the world. I hope the best for you both 😉
Poker and wife
Hello there dedkndy how are you? Thanks for sharing your questions with the Cardschat community. You question is very personal but very important for a poker player. I also play poker, most of times online and my girlfriend is always trying to dispute her attention with me. However, my girlfriend understands that Poker is not a game of luck, instead, a game of skill versus our opponents luck, as some kind player here in the forum uses as its personal motto.
You have to know what is the best for you and the best for her. Maybe your life dynamics as a poker player is not good for her and she's trying to make you decide whether you want to hang up with her or with the dealer and the cards. Complicated, brother and I don't know if I have any authority to help you in this matter.
My personal experience is trying to play when my girlfriend is not around, and when she's around I tried to do something with her such as go to the movies, to the park to take a walk, talk about life and everything. I wouldn't like to be in your shoes in a situation like that, and I also don't want to risk anybody's marriage because I have no ideia how much you care and love one another.
I hope you can talk to her and explain that it is a profession, a very hard one and, in the future, that only you know when and how, you might begin to play poker only, leave your job at the office and then you will have plenty of time for her.
It is hard man when it comes to choose between love and duty because is so strong. I don't know if you watched the TV Show "Game of Thrones" but there is an episode where Meister Aemon Targaryen explain to Jon Snow that.
"Did you ever wonder why the men of the Night's Watch take no wives and father no children?" Maester Aemon asks Jon Snow. "So they will not love. Love is the death of duty." Jon tells him that his father, Ned Stark, would do "whatever is right, no matter what," if faced with the choice between his family and his honor, and Aemon replies that most men are not Ned Stark: "What is honor compared to a woman's love? What is duty against the feel of a newborn son in your arms, or a brother's smile?
Love is the strongest force of the universe. Nothing matches a person in love. Maybe all you have to do is look into her eyes and tell her how much you care for her, how much you love and that everything you do, including gambling is for the sake of her and the family that you have or will have. I hope you can find a way to happiness with your wife, a win win situation where you can keep playing and studying poker and also maintain your relationship in a healthy and loveable way.
Regards;
Love is all! Good game and good luck at the tables always!
Carlos 'Aballinamion' Barbosa
dedkndy said:
Hello there dedkndy how are you? Thanks for sharing your questions with the Cardschat community. You question is very personal but very important for a poker player. I also play poker, most of times online and my girlfriend is always trying to dispute her attention with me. However, my girlfriend understands that Poker is not a game of luck, instead, a game of skill versus our opponents luck, as some kind player here in the forum uses as its personal motto.
You have to know what is the best for you and the best for her. Maybe your life dynamics as a poker player is not good for her and she's trying to make you decide whether you want to hang up with her or with the dealer and the cards. Complicated, brother and I don't know if I have any authority to help you in this matter.
My personal experience is trying to play when my girlfriend is not around, and when she's around I tried to do something with her such as go to the movies, to the park to take a walk, talk about life and everything. I wouldn't like to be in your shoes in a situation like that, and I also don't want to risk anybody's marriage because I have no ideia how much you care and love one another.
I hope you can talk to her and explain that it is a profession, a very hard one and, in the future, that only you know when and how, you might begin to play poker only, leave your job at the office and then you will have plenty of time for her.
It is hard man when it comes to choose between love and duty because is so strong. I don't know if you watched the TV Show "Game of Thrones" but there is an episode where Meister Aemon Targaryen explain to Jon Snow that.
"Did you ever wonder why the men of the Night's Watch take no wives and father no children?" Maester Aemon asks Jon Snow. "So they will not love. Love is the death of duty." Jon tells him that his father, Ned Stark, would do "whatever is right, no matter what," if faced with the choice between his family and his honor, and Aemon replies that most men are not Ned Stark: "What is honor compared to a woman's love? What is duty against the feel of a newborn son in your arms, or a brother's smile?
Love is the strongest force of the universe. Nothing matches a person in love. Maybe all you have to do is look into her eyes and tell her how much you care for her, how much you love and that everything you do, including gambling is for the sake of her and the family that you have or will have. I hope you can find a way to happiness with your wife, a win win situation where you can keep playing and studying poker and also maintain your relationship in a healthy and loveable way.
Regards;
Love is all! Good game and good luck at the tables always!
Carlos 'Aballinamion' Barbosa
Hi.
My girlfriend also sometimes quarrels with me because of my passion for poker. But I learned how to solve this problem through compromises. There are many options for such compromises and I am convinced that everything depends on you and your desire to solve this problem.
Good luck.
My girlfriend also sometimes quarrels with me because of my passion for poker. But I learned how to solve this problem through compromises. There are many options for such compromises and I am convinced that everything depends on you and your desire to solve this problem.
Good luck.
Poker or your wife? Doesn't seem like a hard choice but it is. Got to try compromising. Sit down and try to explain to her your passion for poker and try to get her to understand that it's not a competition or a replacement for her and that you have time for both. If that doesn't work, sorry, there's more fish in the sea..lol
you have to keep in mind that always the family is first or it is my way of thinking the best thing is to balance your life with the jeugo, the family and the work because you must have in ceutna you say that you work on the day then you go to the canyon, keep in mind That is about effort that the body will sooner or later take your toll on those excesses that you give yourself without resting properly
This is a little deeper than "should I fold my 44 UTG to a 3bet preflop?" But, misery does like company, and it is good to know that you are not alone. Of course that doesn't mean that any of us have an answer for your particular situation.
I just celebrated my 35th wedding anniversary with my lovely wife a couple of weeks ago. In order to get to this point, you just have to decide what is more important to you. I have told my wife that if I have to choose between poker or you, I choose you. This is a personal decision that starts the dialog. After all, will poker love you back the rest of your life? 100% of arguments, fights, wars are the result of selfishness - each side wanting something the other side isn't willing to give. Love breaks this down to find the spot where both can be content.
Once the dialog is open, now you can work to resolve the real problem, whatever it is. Is it the time, is it the addiction, is it the money, is it jeolousy or something neither of you have really perceived just yet? For my wife, she just does not understand poker and she is scared of the problem of addiction. Our family has direct experience with the very destructive force of addiction, be it drugs or gambling. So, her fears are very real. I have tried to get her interested in poker, thinking that understanding the game would help, but she just isn't interested. So we have to come to an agreement about how often I can play or how much I can spend (lose per month?) and keep her within her comfort zone while giving me enough poker time for my fix. This is working, but there will likely always be a little tension here.
I am no therapist, just sharing a story so you know that you are not alone. In life, we always have to decide what our priorities are and which "thing" is at the top of the list. I have decided, have you?
Good luck to you.
I just celebrated my 35th wedding anniversary with my lovely wife a couple of weeks ago. In order to get to this point, you just have to decide what is more important to you. I have told my wife that if I have to choose between poker or you, I choose you. This is a personal decision that starts the dialog. After all, will poker love you back the rest of your life? 100% of arguments, fights, wars are the result of selfishness - each side wanting something the other side isn't willing to give. Love breaks this down to find the spot where both can be content.
Once the dialog is open, now you can work to resolve the real problem, whatever it is. Is it the time, is it the addiction, is it the money, is it jeolousy or something neither of you have really perceived just yet? For my wife, she just does not understand poker and she is scared of the problem of addiction. Our family has direct experience with the very destructive force of addiction, be it drugs or gambling. So, her fears are very real. I have tried to get her interested in poker, thinking that understanding the game would help, but she just isn't interested. So we have to come to an agreement about how often I can play or how much I can spend (lose per month?) and keep her within her comfort zone while giving me enough poker time for my fix. This is working, but there will likely always be a little tension here.
I am no therapist, just sharing a story so you know that you are not alone. In life, we always have to decide what our priorities are and which "thing" is at the top of the list. I have decided, have you?
Good luck to you.
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[COLOR=rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.87)]sorry friend, but your wife must be very boring, because what you do for her and her, she should thank God every day, or you make her understand that life together has to have each other's moments , she is hers and you are yours, otherwise it is better to live alone and if you separate from her, she is the one who will feel more because stewardship you give another will not give.
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