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I keep noticing the same pattern in my tournaments. I can reach the late stages by being patient, disciplined, and selective with my hands. But after losing one big hand, something changes i start letting emotions take over, changing my style, playing random hands bluffing too much, and sometimes I comppletily lose control—as hapened to me yesterday. Eventualy, I end up out of the tournament. I honestily don’t understand why I keep repeating the same mistaake, even when I know exactly what is hapening!!?
 
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Did you try some mental coaching or something ?
Sometimes, that's the key to fix this.
 
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successlaw said:
Did you try some mental coaching or something ?
Sometimes, that's the key to fix this.
Think you
 
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You understand where your mistake is but you keep making it. I think you just lack experience. Work on yourself, self-control is the hardest part of the game.
 
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What you’re describing is classic post‑big‑loss tilt. It’s not that you don’t know what you’re doing — it’s that emotion overrides discipline in the critical moment. The real solution is having a fixed protocol after every bad beat or big lost pot: take a 1–2 minute break, breathe, mentally reset, and return to your standard style. If you don’t get back to your normal game within the next few hands, the tilt snowballs and knocks you out of the tournament. It’s not easy, but it can be trained.
 
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That’s called "tilt." And don’t worry—it’s perfectly normal. Work on the mental side of your game, and you’ll start being able to control that aspect. GG.
 
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Honestly, I think a lot of players struggle with this. Knowing you're tilting and actually stopping yourself from tilting are two very different things. 😅
For me, the key is having a rule after a big loss: take a minute, breathe, and don't try to win those chips back immediately. Getting back to making normal decisions instead of emotional ones is the hardest part. One bad hand doesn't have to turn into a bad tournament.
 
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everything that doesn't kill you makes you stronger, you already know your mistake - work on it, dispersion has no memory, so ignore it
 
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Sounds like classic tilt. Other than working on your mental game, maybe some of the following could help:

1) Play more tables. If you are playing several tournaments, the entire success of your session is not hinged on, how you do in a single one of them. There are also other tables to divert your attention from the one, where you just lost a big pot, which help you avoid "revenge playing".

2) Be properly bankrolled for the games, you play. If we cant really afford to play the tournament in the first place, and maybe we satellited in or something, its much more emotionally damaging, when we get unlucky and lose a big pot.

3) Play smaller field tournaments with no more than say 100 participants. With smaller fields we reach the final table more often, and we are never in a situation, where this was our chance to massively increase our bankroll, but (yet again) we got “so close but still so far”.

4) Avoid putting yourself into situations, where you need to make complicated decisions, while you are on tilt. Fold marginal hands preflop, even some that you might normally open or defend. Give up if you miss the flop completely. If its close between jamming and either calling or betting/raising small, then jam, so that there are no more decisions to be made in the hand.
 
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Fold marginal hands preflop, even some that you might normally open or defend.

I do this. If I'm feeling agitated over a loss, I fold roughly the bottom half of my standard ranges until the feeling goes away, usually 1 or 2 hands, rarely more than 3. I also do this if I'm feeling invincible after big wins, fold the bottom half of my ranges so I don't do something dumb thinking that I can't lose.

We want to avoid emotional decisions, but let's not kid ourselves, poker is an emotional game (like any other competitive endeavor). We can't ignore our emotions. If we turn them off completely, we have no intuition, no gut instinct. We just can't let reckless emotion override sound judgement. It's a zen thing and very difficult to master. I have not mastered it.
 
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don´t have emotions at a poker table.
 
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These two statements contradict one another.

WrongUsername said:
don´t have emotions at a poker table.

WrongUsername said:
sure always believe in your guts.
 
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I think everyone goes on tilt; you just have to learn to control it. I often go on tilt myself.
 
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Sounds like the classic poker disease: “I lost one big hand, so now I must personally recover every chip on the table.” I think the key is to treat the next hand as a completely new hand. The previous one already took its money and left. Easier said than done, though!
 
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Man, what you’re describing is basically the classic tilt spiral, and it happens to way more players than you think. You grind patiently, play solid, build a stack, then one big hand goes south and suddenly your whole mindset flips. It’s like your brain wants to “win it back” immediately, so you start forcing spots, bluffing too much, and abandoning the discipline that got you deep in the first place. The frustrating part is exactly what you said — you know it’s happening while it’s happening, but you still can’t stop yourself. That’s tilt in its purest form.
 
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Sahbi1403 said:
I keep noticing the same pattern in my tournaments. I can reach the late stages by being patient, disciplined, and selective with my hands. But after losing one big hand, something changes i start letting emotions take over, changing my style, playing random hands bluffing too much, and sometimes I comppletily lose control—as hapened to me yesterday. Eventualy, I end up out of the tournament. I honestily don’t understand why I keep repeating the same mistaake, even when I know exactly what is hapening!!?
How long have you been playing?
I think this behavior changes when you begin to understand the game more, or at least it should change.
Just keep playing and if you find yourself in this situation again just take two or three more seconds before acting, and ask yourself if the decision you're taking make sense or you're just acting with rage
 
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Yes, something similar is happening to me. After losing an important hand, it's hard for me to stay calm and I start playing more impulsively than strategically. The worst thing is that I often know that I'm changing the way I play, but I still can't control myself in time. I think I need to learn to recognize that moment and regain my composure before making more decisions.
 
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Marshmalo1994 said:
How long have you been playing?
I think this behavior changes when you begin to understand the game more, or at least it should change.
Just keep playing and if you find yourself in this situation again just take two or three more seconds before acting, and ask yourself if the decision you're taking make sense or you're just acting with rage
I’ve been playing poker since 2019, so I’ve had enough experience to recognize that this isn’t a lack of understanding of the game. The real challenge is staying disciplined and thinking clearly when emotions kick in after a big loss. Your advice about taking a few seconds before acting is excellent, and I think that small pause can make a huge difference.
 
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It may not be a lack of understand of the game in general, but it may be that your understanding of bad beats is a little off. Bad beats and suckouts happen ALL THE TIME. I've won tons of tournaments after taking terrible bad beats and suckouts early. I've even won or at least come back to cash highly many many times after taking a horrible suckout at the final table that leaves me short-stacked. We just have to adjust our ranges and actions to the new stacks situation and do the best that we can. We often give a bad beat back to someone else and climb right back in. Once we get down to that short stack time, things just naturally get volatile. We have 23bb and open QTo from the CO normally but then the SB jams for 9bb and we can't call. Big chunks of chips move around even though the bets are relatively small. That's just how it is and we just have to live with it.

When we play deep, we play normal poker. When the stacks get short, it's not normal poker. It's ICM time. We have to adjust, but if we do, we have a significant advantage because most micro stakes players don't. They keep playing with deep stack ranges, limping in marginal hands with 5bb like a putz fish does, hah! We don't do that because we are better and we adjust to the stacks. We're not fish. ; )

Remember, we can't win tournaments without winning a couple of coin flip hands along the way. No matter how good we are, we need some luck. When we don't get it, we lose and it sucks, but it's okay. We WILL win our share over time if we keep playing well enough. The proof is in our bankroll going up and up while that putz fish keeps limping in his marginals with 5bb and checking all streets year after year after year.
 
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I’ve been playing poker since 2019, so I’ve had enough experience to recognize that this isn’t a lack of understanding of the game.
On your profile you only list your username on WPT Global, and you have only been playing there for 4 month. So obviously you must have been playing on other sites most of the time. However from what I can see on sharkscope about your WPT Global account, its pretty clear, you are not doing any of those things, that I wrote might be helpfull.

You have 91 active days and 211 games played, so you are clearly playing one or at most two tournaments at a time rather than a whole session. And out of your 8 last games, which is all, I can see, because you did not opt in to Sharkscope, there are 7 freerolls and 1 $1.1 MTT. So from your game selection it very much looks like, you dont have any bankroll but basically play freerolls and then occationally spend some of your freeroll winnings on a regular game.

Like on 9. august 2026 you won $5.73 in a freeroll, and then the next day you played that $1.1 MTT, where you ended up finishing 17/226 for a profit of $5.96. And finally 7 out of these 8 tournament had fields of more than 100 players, which makes it difficult to reach the final table and any of the significant prices. Although you did actually manage to finish second in the freeroll, where you cashed.

My point here is, that getting good at poker require a serious amount of grinding. Its not enough to have played for many years, if you play in this way, where you only play one or two games per day, and most of them are freerolls. And by getting good at poker I dont just mean the technical side but also the mental side of the game like controlling your emotions, when you lose a big pot deep in a tournament.

So you need to play with a bankroll and put in some real volume. And if you have been trying with tournaments since 2019 without much success, then maybe try cash games instead. The advantage of cash games is, they offer total flexibility, as you can sit down and stand up, whenever you want to, and you can play as many tables, as you are comfortable with, up to at least 6 on most sites.

Then if you have success with cash games and manage to build a bankroll of at least $500, then you can consider to go back to tournaments and play sessions of $2.2-5.5 MTTs playing at least 3-4 tables at a time. Then you will probably find, that it comes completely naturally to not care so much about, what happen in any single one of them, because you also need to focus on the other.
 
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Nice explanation @fundiver199 !
I think that reaching the point where recovering from a huge bad beat feels natural is a long road and difficult way but normal in this game.. Process various "bubble" exits.. Understanding the nature of this game, theory, if the hand was played correctly even if it didn't work out, makes it easier to accept the result and move on without significantly affecting your future actions. (y)
 
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On your profile you only list your username on WPT Global, and you have only been playing there for 4 month. So obviously you must have been playing on other sites most of the time. However from what I can see on Sharkscope about your WPT Global account, its pretty clear, you are not doing any of those things, that I wrote might be helpfull.

You have 91 active days and 211 games played, so you are clearly playing one or at most two tournaments at a time rather than a whole session. And out of your 8 last games, which is all, I can see, because you did not opt in to Sharkscope, there are 7 freerolls and 1 $1.1 MTT. So from your game selection it very much looks like, you dont have any bankroll but basically play freerolls and then occationally spend some of your freeroll winnings on a regular game.

Like on 9. august 2026 you won $5.73 in a freeroll, and then the next day you played that $1.1 MTT, where you ended up finishing 17/226 for a profit of $5.96. And finally 7 out of these 8 tournament had fields of more than 100 players, which makes it difficult to reach the final table and any of the significant prices. Although you did actually manage to finish second in the freeroll, where you cashed.

My point here is, that getting good at poker require a serious amount of grinding. Its not enough to have played for many years, if you play in this way, where you only play one or two games per day, and most of them are freerolls. And by getting good at poker I dont just mean the technical side but also the mental side of the game like controlling your emotions, when you lose a big pot deep in a tournament.

So you need to play with a bankroll and put in some real volume. And if you have been trying with tournaments since 2019 without much success, then maybe try cash games instead. The advantage of cash games is, they offer total flexibility, as you can sit down and stand up, whenever you want to, and you can play as many tables, as you are comfortable with, up to at least 6 on most sites.

Then if you have success with cash games and manage to build a bankroll of at least $500, then you can consider to go back to tournaments and play sessions of $2.2-5.5 MTTs playing at least 3-4 tables at a time. Then you will probably find, that it comes completely naturally to not care so much about, what happen in any single one of them, because you also need to focus on the other.
Thank you for your detailed feedback, most of what you said is completely accurate and I generally agree with your advice. Just to clarify, I have been active on WPT Global since April 2025, and before that, I played for three years on PokerStars—and various other different sites before that period—until PokerStars specifically became restricted for Tunisian players. Your points about the need for high volume, stepping up into cash games, and properly managing a bankroll make perfect sense for real progression. I really look forward to applying your insights to improve my grinding and emotional control, so thank you again for taking the time to share your comment
 
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A bad state in which you're losing money. Sometimes you think the RNG is on your side. The problem is your playing style. I had a similar session today. But I'm not upset about it; that's just how it is: you lose today and win tomorrow.
 
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A bad state in which you're losing money. Sometimes you think the RNG is on your side. The problem is your playing style. I had a similar session today. But I'm not upset about it; that's just how it is: you lose today and win tomorrow.
"Well said! Acceptance is key in this game. Dust yourself off and good luck with tomorrow's session!"
 
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Nice explanation @fundiver199 !
I think that reaching the point where recovering from a huge bad beat feels natural is a long road and difficult way but normal in this game.. Process various "bubble" exits.. Understanding the nature of this game, theory, if the hand was played correctly even if it didn't work out, makes it easier to accept the result and move on without significantly affecting your future actions. (y)
You hit the nail on the head regarding the mental game. Learning to acept bad beats and bubble exits is definitely a long but essential journey. Focusing on maaking the right decisions rather than the short-term results is what truly builds a resilient player.
 
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