it’s very difficult to negotiate with women, they have a different logic — it's a fact, not bad, not good — it's just different! but you can always negotiate if you love and respect each other! poker is a serious problem - it’s difficult for many to recognize it to be recognized Try to compromise - if you like - must go, maybe just bluffing
It looks like delicate situation but looking at your description you are not doing anything wrong. Maybe it is good idea to directly speak with your wife and ask her why she do not want you to play. Is it because she is afraid that you will be come addicted and ruin the family? Is it because she thinks that you are spending family money to play? Is it because she thinks that your visits to the casino are cover for relationship with other woman? Is it something completely different? Whatever it is you need to speak with her and ask her to tell it directly. Remember also that proof is in the pudding so you can show her your balance and statistics so that she can see that you are successful player.
Dedkndy, you don't specify in your post what precisely your wife's issues are with you playing poker but, it sounds as if the time aspect might be a major factor. If that is the case then I agree with previous posters that compromise is the answer.
If it isn't time then the information you're leaving out is pertinent.
People jumping on your back for asking stranger's advice are out of line in my opinion. People removed from the situation are in some ways ideal to discuss sensitive personal issues with because they don't know anyone involved so are more likely to offer unbiased views. Not to mention that you are able to disclose details that might be awkward without fear of it reaching those involved because the stranger has no idea who they are.
However it's difficult to advise as it feels like you're holding back something or that we don't quite have the full picture somehow.
That being said I do wish you all the best and hope for a peaceful and loving resolution.
If it isn't time then the information you're leaving out is pertinent.
People jumping on your back for asking stranger's advice are out of line in my opinion. People removed from the situation are in some ways ideal to discuss sensitive personal issues with because they don't know anyone involved so are more likely to offer unbiased views. Not to mention that you are able to disclose details that might be awkward without fear of it reaching those involved because the stranger has no idea who they are.
However it's difficult to advise as it feels like you're holding back something or that we don't quite have the full picture somehow.
That being said I do wish you all the best and hope for a peaceful and loving resolution.
Are you married or ever been in a long term relationship, I can't tell from your comment above, I'm looking at getting into one and would like to know any other expert tips of what my future partner must learn.MishkaZL said:
I like the gem you mentioned above but she just doesn't get it, I can't figure out why, I'm an awesome guy, and I'm full of testosterone.
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Hello, you know, I think that it is not necessary to change your life so dramatically. Poker is good, especially when it turns out. I myself love to play poker, and we often quarrel with my boyfriend, hot he himself loves poker, but not like me, it comes to the fact that I just secretly play from him, I am not a winning player, so I play freerolls or micro limits, it relaxes me, if possible, improve my skills. But you know what I'll tell you, no things and games in the world can not be more expensive than loved ones, because of this do not divorce. Think, do you really feel that playing poker is more pleasant than spending time with your wife, then maybe this is not your man? But if that's not the case then I think you need to seriously talk to your wife, find compromises, on her part it's also not right that she wants to limit you from the cause that you love. Talk to her, explain to her what you want, so that she understands that it is really important to you. No need to swear because of this, in life so many problems that are much more difficult to solve. The problem with a lot of people is that they just don't want to listen to each other. My advice to you, talk and listen to each other look for a compromise, because divorce is too easy is not it? You can always do that. Relationships are hard work. You can build them and solve problems or throw everything in the way. I hope that you will get better. Take care of yourself and your family, and poker, I think it's solvable. Good luckdedkndy said:
Or maybe you should shorten your stay in the casino a bit? Can be it bored indeed? Take an interest in her Hobbies, do something together. Not the fact that it will appeal to another woman. Think about why you started a family? Poker is great but poker is not your whole life. Think about what you live for, do you need a wife and children in the future? 4 days a week for 5 hours is still a lot. Your wife can also be understood as she wants to spend time with you. Just weigh all the pros and cons, think about what you are doing wrong, if it was insignificant in time, then I think she would not swear with you, she just does not have your attention.dedkndy said:
Meant to appendage onto my previous post that this is exactly why I hope to fall in love with and marry either a professional female poker player*, someone employed in the poker industry or at least someone as avidly into poker as I am...
Feel like this will save me heartache and hassle in the long run...
I'm in no rush to get into a relationship though, my goals are my priority.
*I wish Liv and Igor all the best but will certainly be there to catch Liv if she falls, haha... 😀
Feel like this will save me heartache and hassle in the long run...
I'm in no rush to get into a relationship though, my goals are my priority.
*I wish Liv and Igor all the best but will certainly be there to catch Liv if she falls, haha... 😀
I would wonder what it is specifically that your wife does not like about poker or your playing it.
If its the money and you can prove to her that you are a winning player and show how that it benefits her, it might ease her concerns.
If its you being away, I would wonder if she feels lonely those 4 days, is it work around the house that is neglected, do you have kids that she wants you to be around for?
If its the money and you can prove to her that you are a winning player and show how that it benefits her, it might ease her concerns.
If its you being away, I would wonder if she feels lonely those 4 days, is it work around the house that is neglected, do you have kids that she wants you to be around for?
Family is definitely important. But sometimes it happens that you understand-this is not a family. Habit no more. I had it with my first wife. It's not about poker. The most important thing is to sit down and talk heart to heart. To Express to each other all claims. Don't be silent. All problems are solved with words. You don't have to wave your hand expecting everyone to come to their senses
dedkndy said:
Hi everyone.
Obviously I am not going to make any macho comments because I consider it a stage that men should leave in the past once and for all.
In my house we do not have problems of this type since we are three: my wife, who plays poker next to me and my dog, who does not play poker but supports both (maybe in time I learn to play hahaha).
Regarding your friend case, I think you have everything in your favor, you just need a little patience from your wife.
Greetings and luck.
What is more important Poker or the wife. The answer is the wife. If it more then two seconds to answer, get a divorce. It seems as though you consider your wife an inconvenience to your poker. Poker you play, marriage you work at until you get it right. If you did not know, no one ever gets it right so keep working at it.